Confessions of a Recovering Pharisee

20 Years ago today, Cassandra Frazier of Scottsboro, AL became Cassandra Bussey.  I’m amazed at what our life has brought us.  I’ll never forget the 1st time I met her. I knew who she was when she attended Samford but never got to know her.  When she transfered to UAB she lived in the same apartment complex as my former roommate and Frat brother, Ramsay. I was at Ramsay’s apartment one night for a birthday party and Cassandra came over.  I remember talking to her for several hours and wanting to ask her out for a date. But Ramsay and his dental student buddies were notorious for pulling pranks on their friends when they went on dates so I didn’t want to blow any chance I had with Cassandra.   Thankfully for me Ramsay moved a month later.  :)

Cassandra’s roommate/best friend, Tonya was dating and eventually married Dr. Rob Jackson who was my new roommate and one of my best friends.  They really wanted Cassandra and I to get together and made some excuses why they needed Cassandra and I to go with them to talk.  I knew what Rob was up to but Cassandra didn’t.  Anyway, I asked her out the next day and we’ve been together ever since then–2 years of dating/engagement and 20 years of marriage.

Cassandra is an angel.  She has been with me when I had a tragic car accident.  We had the honeymoon from hades and she still loves me.  She thought she was marrying a high school football coach and I pulled a bait and switch.  She has stood by me when I left coaching to enter business.  We moved to Ft. Worth and she put me through Seminary.  We lived through 7 hurricanes on two coasts including Katrina.  She has supported me through the risks I’ve taken like starting a church.  I should have trusted her instincts about some places but I’m kind of naive.  We lived through a few church splits, a drastic pay cut–involuntary, resignation and a voluntary pay cut.  

We have 2 healthy children who she has homeschooled for most of their schooling.  She is the best listener I’ve ever been around.  Ask anyone who knows her.  If you met her today she would make you feel like you have known her your entire life and would probably tell her everything about yourself.  That is the kind of person she is.  She doesn’t want anyone to recognize her but she realizes that God has a calling on her life too!  She is an amazing, Godly woman and I am truly blessed.  I know she hates it but she really is a Proverbs 31 woman.  

Thanks for 20 years Cass!  I pray God gives us many more.