Oct 30 2006
Young Men Want to Wait on Marriage
They want kids, houses and sex. And they want women, too — but not in the form of wives. Not until they’re older.
So says the latest study to probe the minds of America’s young men, aged 25 to 33. The study found 10 reasons men won’t commit — from the ease of finding sex partners to the desire to avoid financial risks of divorce. Read about it here.
Intersting if our society would do as the Bible says it might change this. The number one reason young men don’t get married is the ease of finding sex.
What do you think?
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7 responses so far
Interesting study. Thanks for sharing it.
I have absolutely no problem with young people waiting to get married. One reason the divorce rate is so high, I am convinced, is that people marry entirely too young. Age and maturity can do a lot to reduce that.
It is troubling that ease of finding sex partners is one of the reasons why. But it is true. They don’t even call it sex, they call it “hooking up.” I suspect that along with all the sexual activity taking place, there are increasing cases of STDs to go along with it, complicating the marriage issue even more.
I have a young client–23 years old. She began dating a young man, and he was elusive when she asked about the number of sex partners he had been with. She pressed him for the info, and he revealed that he had been with over 60 women. Do the math on that one. First, he is probably lying to her because he knew she would be troubled by the many people he had been with, so the number could be much higher. But even if he is telling the truth and had been with 60 women, the numbers are really troubling. If you went back to his 18th birthday, that averages out to one different woman a month, every month, for five years. She broke up with him after that.
Troubling indeed.
But Jason, did you ask this same young woman how many sex partners she has had?
What’s good for the gander, is also good for the goose.
I agree with Jason about waiting. But we need to wait to have sex too! Part of the problem is “hooking up,” “casual sex” or whatever you call it is too easy!
BTW,  I’m stuck at my office waiting on my wife to bring the jumper cables. My car battery is dead, uggh! God must be planning something great this week, the opposition has already begun.
Phil,
You’re right about the goose and gander.
I didn’t want to get that personal with the young lady, but I believe she mentioned that she had fewer than five. Of course, to me, that is a lot!
This evening on the way home, I heard a female comedian discussing the issue of sexuality (she is a licensed sex therapist, if you can imagine that). She said if a man sleeps with 500 women, he is a stud, and that is considered a good thing among young people. If a woman has slept with 500 men, she is a slut according to their standards. So what is good for the goose…?
I don’t know where that cultural bias comes from, but it is VERY VERY old. Where is the man caught with the woman brought before Jesus? Judah, who got off scott free when he visited his daughter in law whom he thought was a prostitute (Gen 38:15 ff)
Clearly Phil is very right, and as careful as it must be done, both sides must be addressed.
Brother Kevin,
What a great article to point out today’s culture. In the comment stream the others make excellent points. I believe we should stop comparing geese and ganders and just all say it is Biblicly wrong to enter into sexual relationships outside of marriage. When this standard returns we will see culture change. In the article it spoke about one man that said he got teased some by his parents, but he could go back home anytime he wanted. This is a failure on parents to allow their kids to take on adult responsibilities and still act like children. IMHO.
Blessings,
Tim
Would any of you say that King Solomon was promiscuous, with all those wives and concubines he had? Imagine the STDs he must have spread!